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Dad and Boss
I have worked for my Dad for 7 years at "our" resturant. We are opened Thur. to Sun. I spend my entire weekend there. He pays me $150 plus I make tips. Which are no more than $150-$200 on a good week. I have no benefits at all.
I take care of the bill paying, servers, and make sure things are done. I have to clean up the area around the cash register because he can't seem to pick up anything that he drops on the floor. (Just an example of his laziness.) I end up cleaning the bathrooms because he will not make anyone else do it right. He leaves every Thursday night to go play poker. I am left there with one other server. I could call someone else in but that would take away from my tips that I need. So, I have to run the cash register, do all the carryout orders, and try to wait on tables. He doesn't come in on Saturdays until 5-6 p.m. Sunday he comes in at 12 p.m. and leaves to play poker again by 5 p.m. I am left there to take care of payroll, take care of the cash register, and wait tables.
He could pay me more. He took his girlfriend on a cruise that he won from the food company we buy from. She has only been around for two years. I was left at the resturant to work. I did not get a thank you from him. I ran his business why he had vacation and I didn't get any extra pay.
The building needs alot of work. We need a new heating/cooling system. Last winter it was cold on there. I had to wear a sweater and jacket. Now, it is so hot. Our customers complain to me. Customers sweat because it is so hot. He said, "I am not doing anything about it. As long as we are doing good business, I don't care. The customers will come in and get out quick like this. I don't care how much the workers complain." What?
He also screams, he has no respect for anyone that works there. I can never do enough. No one can. He doesn't do anything himself. I try to give suggestions but he shoves them aside. It's like I don't know what I am talking about. Yet customers tell me, "This place would not be open if it where not for you." and "So, you run this place now?"
I could go on.
I would like my job instead of dreading it if he would just stop being an asshole.
Ummm…either sit your Dad down and talk this out with him, or go work somewhere else. Pretty much anything else would be more money.
So quit.
Do you live with your father?
A bit of advice from a much older person. Don’t pick up the slack for other adults. This leads to co-dependance. Saying no makes us feel uncomfortable but when we dont we become resentful. You dont have to be mean or bent out of shape over it. People will always misbehave to however much the traffic will bear. Do your job that was agreed upon. My motto has always been “Im being paid for 8 hours and I’ll work 8 hours”. Beyond that my soul is mine. Also if its really hard on your head find somewhere else to work.
Sounds like a tough situation. Maybe look for another job where you do the same thing and are paid for it or have less responsibilities, but make the same money.
Are you indentured? If you hate so much, quit. I don’t much buy the ‘customer’s complain about the hot/cold but he doesn’t care’. Sounds like sniveling baby. You work 4 days a week. That gives you the days to find something else if it is so bad.
If you are really doing all the things you say you are, there are lots of bosses out there who would find you a very valuable employee. They would also pay you what you are worth. Polish your resume and give notice. People can only take advantage of you if you let them
I also woerked for my dad for 2 years.
Horrid conditions. No vacation, Ever! miserable pay and just like you, had to take care of a wide vaierty of duties. The job was in cosntruction. Also had to work on Holidays. On top of that he made personal comments which a regular person would not have done. This due to the father/son relationship.
Forget he is going to give you the reins to the business. It’s never going to happen. Believe me. If your father has no other ocupation except the restaurant he will never leave till he dies. He is obviusly doing great. He has someone he trusts more than anyone else at low wages. You need to remember that he is a business person. He might find that more important then his father role.
For some time I thought it is better to have your own father as a Boss then some stranger who might turn to be a prick. well, I was wrong.
I am doing much better now. More money, vacation, and believe it or not; more respect.
Be independent.
He pays you? WOW your dad is AWESOME! I wouldn’t pay my uneducated kids a friggin penny then maybe they’d go to college and get edumfuckingcated.
GET OUT AND GO ON WITH LIFE U HAVE EXPERIENCE YOU KNOW WHAT IT TAKES SO GO ON AHEAD GET OUT WHILE YOUR STILL YOUNG AND DO THIS LIFE THING TO THE FULLEST SHOW POPS HOW IT’S DONE SON!
FROM THE ORIGINAL POSTER: I HAVE SAT DOWN MY FATHER MANY TIMES OVER THE PAST COUPLE OF YEARS. NOT ONLY ABOUT ME BUT ABOUT HIS LACK OF RESPECT FOR OTHERS. I HAVE TRIED TO TALK TO HIM ABOUT MANY THINGS. HE IS NOT A LISTENER. HE IS RIGHT, PERIOD.
NO, I DO NOT LIVE WITH MY FATHER. HE DOES NOT SUPPORT ME IN ANYWAY OTHER THAN THE $150 PAY FOR WORK. PEOPLE TEND TO THINK I DO “HAVE IT MADE” BUT THAT’S NOT THE CASE.
CUSTOMERS DO COMPLAIN ABOUT THE HOT/COLD TEMP. OF THE BUILDING. I HAVE HAD CUSTOMERS SAY, “IT’S SO HOT IN HERE, NEXT TIME WE OUTTA GO TO (THEY NAMES ANOTHER REST.).” AND “IS(FATHERS NAME) TRYING TO SAVE MONEY BY NOT TURNING ON THE A.C.?”
I AM STARTING TO DOUBT MORE AND MORE THAT HE WILL EVER “GIVE ME THE REINS”. THAT IS THE MAIN REASON I STAY AROUND. HE IS ABOUT TO MARRY A WOMAN WHO IS 15 YEARS YOUNGER THAN HIM AND SHE HAS TWO KIDS. HE NOW WILL HAVE TO SUPPORT HER AND HER KIDS. SO, THAT PUTS ME IN THE SAME POSITION FOR THE NEXT 10 YEARS OR MORE.
ABOUT COLLEGE EDUCATION, I KNOW PEOPLE THAT ARE COLLEGE EDUCATED WORKING IN THE SERVICE INDUSTRY HERE BECAUSE THERE ARE NO OTHER JOBS. SOMEONE’S GOT TO DO IT.
I WAS THINKING YESTERDAY THAT I CAN’T LIVE OFF OF THIS MONEY. I HAVE TO PAY INSURANCE OUT OF MY POCKET AND THAT TAKES OVER A MONTHS PAY. I ALSO THOUGHT , “I JUST POSTED ON BOSSBITCHING.COM ABOUT MY OWN DAD. I HAVE GOT TO DO SOMETHING BEFORE I END UP RESENTING HIM.” YES, IT IS TIME TO GET OUT WHILE I AM YOUNG, USE MY EXPERIENCE, AND FIND SOMETHING BETTER.
Have you talked to him about buying him out? He obviously isn’t interested in the place, so maybe if you arranged to pay him a certain amount every month and then took over running the place you could make the improvements and have a better future.
YOU NEED TO GIVE YOURSELF A RAISE. YOU DO ALL THE FINANCING, SO PAY YOURSELF MORE. IF YOU GET CAUGHT THEN QUIT AND LET HIM SEE HOW HARD IT IS. THEN HE WILL SEE HE TOOK YOU FOR GRANTED.
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